Here I Sit (2) with favouritism

I’ve just over brewed my gingseng tea so it’s bitter but my muesli and banana with maple syrup is going down a treat. It’s a sweet and bitter combination that works quite well. We don’t eat enough bitter food – it’s supposed to help aid digestion – we’re all about the sweet and savoury. I’m a bit partial to wild nettles but you have to be bold when picking the young fresh shoots out of the plant – they can still bite. You have to ‘grab nettle with metal’ – but they make a nice bitter snack when rambling through the hedgerows. This time of year you can mix them with blackberries.

I’m still mulling over my work conundrum, there’s favouritism in the workplace – something we are all inclined to do but when it rears it’s ugly head in the workplace it drives me mad. If it’s favouritism that’s deserved – that is – the favorite is hard working, team orientated, committed and an upstanding member of society (near perfect) then no one is left in any doubt as to why they have achieved those lofty heights.

However, when, as is too often the case, the favourite is just a complete suck, a teacher’s pet and a slimy cheesy smooth merchant the favouritism is very damaging.

I know it’s the way the World works, you have to learn to play the game but to my mind it makes the boss (or whoever the favouritism is being displayed by) look weak, pathetic, needy and slightly desperate..get some non-work friends, go for a drink after work and indulge your poor friendship choices in your own time don’t force your poor choices on us at work.

Work is hard enough as it is – no matter how much you enjoy your job if we could we wouldn’t work – if we all had money, or better still you didn’t need money then all of us would be doing something different (I’d be cycling around the World – or sailing – this week anyway!) So, as I was saying, work is hard enough as it is without having a boss who thinks there is some kid of popularity contest going on at work – therefore which ever staff member makes them feel the most popular becomes their favourite. It’s pathetic (did I say that already) needy, desperate and so very frustrating. It’s also emotionally crippling and damages the morale of the rest of the group because you suddenly realise that no matter how hard you work, how smart you look, how focussed and committed you are – it means shit – you need to be smooth with the boss (who by the way you don’t respect now because of their poor ‘friend’ choice) and for most of us – the true upstanding and respected members of the community – this just ain’t going to happen anytime soon.

Or should I just bury my pride, pull my righteous head in and go suck up to the boss?? (Not in my lifetime  - not my bag baby!)